Want it with all your heart. But don’t get attached to getting it.

-Danielle LaPorte

Your desires aren’t innately bad. You’re human. Part of the gorgeouslyfuckeduphumanexperience is to WANT.

To ache. To long for. To yearn.

To desire.

That’s good.

It’s actually attachment that trips us up.

Desire and Attachment aren’t the same thing.

Desire is that sweet wanting.

That moment right before a first kiss. You’re breathing the same air.

Watching that amazing band take the stage; picking up instruments, tuning, and poised to begin.

The saliva that fills your mouth before you take a bite of your favorite food.

Seeing your best friend step out of the car after they drove all night to come spend a week with you.

Hoping the package arrived today.

Attachment is the rigidity.

The oh em gee I have to have it. Just the way I want it. Right now.

The inability to accept change.

Jealousy that the person you just started seeing is somewhere else.

Fighting over the remote.

You planned an outing and your companions want to try something else.

The new car HAS to be this color.

Expecting your child to do what you want them to do.

The rigidity of attachment is where suffering comes into play.

Having to control things is the epitome of attachment. And man, do we suffer for it. Needlessly.

But, don’t get detached. Not on purpose. Don’t disconnect from the glories of life. How boring and cold that must be.

Engage with this one sweet life. No matter what you think about the hearafter, you only get one shot in this unique constellation of atoms. Learning how to practice non attachment is a good way to spend it.

Be you. Want what you want.

When you want what you want, when you know what you want, you can move toward it with your whole heart. Give yourself over to that feeling.

Do what you can to feel how you want to feel.

That’s the whole point. It’s why we bother to get up in the morning, make the goals we make, and live the way we live. You, me, the Pope, EVERYONE is motivated by feeling good.

Even the most spiritually developed of us get there because they are following how they want to feel.

I imagine union with the divine must feel fanfuckingtastic.

So, rather than getting all worked up about our desires, what if we embrace them?

What if we let ourselves want? Like, really truly WANT.

What if you throw yourself into it? Feeling how you want to feel? Give it your whole heart.

And if you don’t get it…okay then. Course correct.

Maybe go after something else.

Maybe try again.

Just go for it. Let yourself want something, anything. Dance your way toward it.

Even if you don’t get there, you will have danced.

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